I'm afraid we are two birds of a feather.
I am the violent one. The guy to dodge that punch, the one always on his guard and almost certainly the one who lands first in a fight. I've been in over 20 street fights, im not proud of that but I do handle myself nicely. I think its a partially instinctive thing, its just here. Its the same meanness I saw in my dad. Although he was a violent son of a bitch, its primal and I have a hard time battling it.