No, the S&P is not very understanding or supportive, or open minded for that matter. But the FAQ is good for anyone who needs to know the basics of lifting.
Horus Ra, we are trying to help. Some of the guys may be acting in a douchebaggy way, but we are trying to expose you to information that would be beneficial to you, as someone who is trying to get their life turned around and get healthy and all that shit. You aren't going to look "toned" whatever the hell that is, if you lose another 20lbs. You are already skinny at 5'6 and 140. A guy like you can actually lose fat while gaining muscle and eating and lifting right.