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post #21 of 77 (permalink) Old 04-26-2013, 06:25 AM
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Sounds good, I'll do my best to answer them



I was definitely more feminine than masculine, but that was by choice.



I wouldn't say I have overly large hands or anything, certainly above the average female's size but also well within the 'acceptable norm' for a female. My feet very well would be a giveaway though of my birth self as my feet are fairly large comparatively speaking.



I can't really say I miss the old way of either, neither one really brought me any pleasure to begin with. The downside to this whole thing though is loss of sensation after the fact, so to say I overly enjoy it now would be a fallacy as well.



I have not.



Yeah, it's like I said, I'm pretty open about things as long as it's approached in a respectful way Hope that answered your questions as well as you had hoped.

Thx for the answers. Regarding question 1 I just want to specify that I didn't mean feminine personality. More regarding facial features. Because you really do look like a proper woman. To make an example I think Justin Bieber would make a better woman than say Russel Crowe. Where you more of a Bieber than a Crowe so to say. Bad example because of the agedifference maybe but you get my point.

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Just a short one as I'm curious, are you happier post-op than you were before? Not like people in your peer group reinforcing happiness, I mean like your own everyday feelings free from external bias, if you can separate it and analyze as such.

What pluses and minuses did you face both before and after, from the perspective of how this change affected your life?

And thanks for sharing.
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How does your family feel about your transformation? Did you lose any friends because of it? Experience any hate crimes? Where do you stand on religion?
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Thx for the answers. Regarding question 1 I just want to specify that I didn't mean feminine personality. More regarding facial features. Because you really do look like a proper woman. To make an example I think Justin Bieber would make a better woman than say Russel Crowe. Where you more of a Bieber than a Crowe so to say. Bad example because of the age difference maybe but you get my point.
Point recieved, I wouldn't go as far as to say I had feminine facial features, more of a neutral or soft masculine.

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Just a short one as I'm curious, are you happier post-op than you were before? Not like people in your peer group reinforcing happiness, I mean like your own everyday feelings free from external bias, if you can separate it and analyze as such.

What pluses and minuses did you face both before and after, from the perspective of how this change affected your life?

And thanks for sharing.
Well that's a very interesting question, I hope I do it justice in answering it.

I would say I am the happiest I've been in a long time, and a major part of that is definitely the steps I've taken to become a woman. Based on my own everyday feelings, I don't even think it's measurable how much more happy I am since I started this process.

Probably the biggest plus in all of this is that I can look at myself in the mirror now and finally feel like I look how I feel. Also, hearing my name out loud no longer makes me subtly sick to my stomach.

A major negative from before hand was all of the beatings I took for being 'disgusting.' Though that negative has carried over, as I detailed in my latest blog post.

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How does your family feel about your transformation? Did you lose any friends because of it? Experience any hate crimes? Where do you stand on religion?
They are fairly accepting, it was weird at first for them, but they came around. I lost several friends over this, they claimed they knew what I wanted and that it wasn't this, or they refused to acknowledge the transformation. One former friend actually said to me when I confronted him about still calling me by my birth name "I can't ******* do it, I respect the hell out of Dylan/Daphne, but I don't feel like I should have to change the way I speak to it to show said respect." It wasn't long after that message that we stopped being friends. As I said in my last blog post again, I received a number of beatings over this. I am a Buddhist.

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Damn it guys! stop asking all these deep, meaningful questions, you're making me look ignorant
j/k very interesting read. BTW what's the link for your blog?

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Damn it guys! stop asking all these deep, meaningful questions, you're making me look ignorant
j/k very interesting read. BTW what's the link for your blogg?
www.mmaforum.com/cowgirl/

I had a blog hosted by another site, but I ended up deleting it because of all of the hate mail I was receiving.

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pronouns get weird for a while.... for like a year, i stopped using him or her with Dee and just said Dee in every sentence, until i got "her" down pat; i sounded like a ridiculous grade schooler. sometimes when i'm really tired or drunk i'm told i'll accidentally slip in a "him".


also, trans does not mean you're a better person... just like everyone else there's are horrible people who will continue being horrible people no matter what.

Liam went through the years of changes while dating my friend Hannah, who helped save all the money up and supported her when so few others did, including Liam's and Hannah's family who did not. once was all said and done, Liam was like, "Actually, I like guys; bye now!"

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www.mmaforum.com/cowgirl/

I had a blog hosted by another site, but I ended up deleting it because of all of the hate mail I was receiving.
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That would be my error, link is www.mmaforum.com/blogs/cowgirl/

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You are one of my best friend in real life, and one of the strongest people I know, and that I am proud of you.

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