My husband and I recently decided to make our marriage "semi-open" about a month ago. The conditions being:
- We're not allowed to enter a romantic relationship with anyone we engage in sexual relations with.
- It can't be a person from off the street.
- They're not allowed to be around the kids nor are they welcome in the house while the kids are around. Nor are we allowed to be in the company of them when in the company of each other.
- If sexual relations do occur at our house, it has to be in the guest bedroom.
- We decided when we got married that no matter what the circumstances were, if we didn't love each other anymore and wanted to get a divorce, then we would stay together until the twins graduated high school.
I'm happy with my husband and he's a great Dad and fun in the sack and everything but he's really vanilla. He goes to work, comes home, helps out with the kids and then either watches sports or the Outdoor channel. On the weekends he goes to the same dive bar with two of his buddies and plays pool and darts. Rinse and repeat. There's nothing wrong with it, it just gets old. He spends plenty of time with me and I'm still very much in love with him but he's just...Boring.
I'm a lot more spontaneous and like to go out and have fun when I'm not being a mom. I have a pretty mundane job (accountant) and I love my kiddos more than anything but I'm still young, you know?
We've been open and honest about everything with each other. He flirts with one of his female friends a lot and I can tell they're both attracted to each other in a physical way but I know he would never leave me for her or anything. Conversely even though I identify as bisexual I haven't seen another girl (outside of a few celebrities/models) that I've fantasized about in a while. I dated women almost exclusively from 14-21 but would sleep with a guy every now and then. Eventually guys started being more fun than girls and hey oh, now I'm married to a guy. Except recently. There's this hot young 22 year old that just graduated that works for accounts payable at the University, who my firm does a lot of business with. 6'0 ft tall, strong tan legs, DD's, deliciously thick lips, everything. I found out she was into girls about two weeks ago and we went out for coffee. Next thing you know, we're making out in her apartment and it eventually led to...Other things
. Long story short it was some awesome sex and it's been forever since I've been with a girl.
I told my husband about it and he seemed to receive it pretty well and even gave me a "fist bump" for it. The hubby and I then proceeded to make our way to the bedroom. This was in the same day. Our sex life has actually gotten BETTER ironically and we seem to be getting along even better than before.
Fast forward two weeks later,
I'm now pretty much having a full blown affair with this girl. I even call her my "girlfriend" and my husband doesn't object. We'll go out and do things that normally my husband wouldn't be interested in. We have awesome sexual chemistry too and she understands that our relationship isn't going to go anywhere. She's a cool girl, but really she's just a hot young thing that I can spoil, have sex with, and occasionally hang out with. I have no serious feelings for her. I go on my half vacation in two weeks, and my "girlfriend" and I are going on a cruise.
All of a sudden I feel REALLY guilty that I'm taking a week off from work, a week off from my family, to go on a cruise with some hot young thing and pretty much have sex on tropical islands with her. Not to mention, only three days ago did my husband start sleeping with someone else. A girl at the gym we go to, who is also married and is a bit older (my husband has always been attracted to older women). I kind of want to call this thing off after the cruise but now that my husband is actually engaging in his part of the agreement, I think that would seem unfair.