Originally Posted by TanyaJade
I have a really good friend who is VERY intelligent and could do very well for himself and has the means to go back and finish school. The problem is that he loves music (metal) so much that it consumes his life and he's convinced that he's going to make it big when really he won't. Also, he's going to see Iron Maiden soon and WILL NOT stop talking about it and hasn't for weeks. Love the guy to death but he's getting super annoying and his wife is out there busting her ass working 80 hrs a week to support their newborn while he works 15 hrs at a call center so he can do his music thing. Pisses me off, poor kid doesn't deserve it and it drives me nuts that my friend who is so intelligent and has the potential to be so successful is wasting his life chasing a dream he will never achieve.
Does she have a problem with it, and are they making enough money to have a stable life? If they are both happy with the situation then there's nothing to be upset about. People live different lives and so long as they are fulfilled and happy.
For example, I know a couple where she works two jobs and he is a volunteer guy for a few animal shops and charities. He makes some money but not enough to even live on his own much less have a major impact in how much money they bring in, but she is perfectly okay and happy that he spends his day (full day, he's not sitting around all day he's actively doing things) doing business with shelters/charity and what have you. I know them both quite well and they are both pretty happy and have a stable life with her income (they have two kids as well).
I'm not saying that they are stable/happy (or his wife is anyways), just wondering if you thought about that or have asked or has she told you she's unhappy?