Originally Posted by TheNegation
Not taking shit or whupping some ass is a great solution, if you are up to it. But you gotta realise that there are so many people out there who just are not tough, either physically or mentally. You can't fight back, so bring a gun to school and really show those bastards who have made you feel like shit since you started school. I totally can see where these people are coming from. Not everyone can throw someone down a staircase and live off that and their reputation as a tough guy for the rest of their school life. Some people are just born to take shit and not be able to do anything about it.
Some people might believe they have their reasons. I'll admit, it's hard for me to understand how people justify putting their own emotions above someone else's life (whether they are picking on someone else, or picked on themselves). My reasoning might be different from yours but you did say earlier that there are some people who just aren't physically or mentally tough.
Once in this type of bulllying situation, my view is that the more physical being plays a smaller role in what I feel is a more mental situation for both parties. For example, Picked-on-Victim A might be able to take the same heat as Picked-on-Victim B and manage not to shootup everyone that's wronged him (Why is that? Has he not had it any harder?)
The more physical party (bullies) can have an easier time controlling and creating these situations all together, but focusing on this party, I honestly feel that bullies are the type of people who have already lost their mental battles. Picking on someone for you own pleasure, security, and peace of mind doesn't show qualities you'd find in someone who has the capability to mentally control his emotions (No matter how outlandish they can be sometimes
I'd be shooting up the world if I couldn't control this either but I could never justify my emotional state for harming/killing).
So what I'm trying to poke at with "emotion controlling" here is that if you're looking at it from this perspective, why would there be any encouraging of the picked-on to lose their own mental battles (having no answers except murder)? Picked-on-Victim B will have stooped to the bully's level while Picked-on-Victim A becomes someone who's not in jail or dead. I can't see your logic of understanding what they might be thinking and going through (in a caring sense) if you can't seem to distinguish the victim's well-being over vengeance. I know this is something that's personal and hits home for you, but you're not helping the cause, and you make a poor representative. To make a more extreme point out of something that was done to you will only re-create the cycle, and these victim's lives will ironically end as a bullies, what caused their emotional anguish in the first place.
Don't get me wrong bro it should've never began in the first place, but your bias chooses the other side of the same story which is People putting their OWN EMOTIONS above everyone else's
whether the bully is getting the shit beat out of him at home and needs to vent frusturation or the "picked-on" is getting the shit beat out of him at school and needs to vent frustration.
I believe there are two selfish parties involved, you can be on any side of it you want, but both parties look like desperate "poor me" Dr.Phil special-eds
trying express what they can't control. I know the bullies will be the instigators, and that the bullies can cause the problems, but it shows what kind of a man you are by how you handle them. The bully clearly couldn't cope with his own mental battles so you encourage the picked-on to not handle their mental battles as well, except with "style"?