Coldcall is right and IMO the only way this can turn into a successful relationship is if you guys really take the time and talk honestly. You should tell her these things (that you need space and even that you love her, but don't feel IN love with her) straight up and she should be mature enough to really listen and try to fix whatever is wrong. The same thing happened with my ex (we had quite a few breakups, it was very hard, especially for me, but they all served the greater good and it made us realize that if we were to get into a relationship now, things would work out, because we fully understand each other and still are very good friends, but we're young and don't want to be strapped down). He said he loved me but was not IN love and in our case, space and personal thinking about our issues was what made a real change. However, it took us 3 years to reach a proper level, so you have to really evaluate what you want to do with your life, because it seems to me like your relationship, especially on her part, is headed for the long time term.
Are you ready to commit yourself like that? If you did, would it be the good choice to make and would you be happy and content? Also, focus on yourself when you think about this, because she obviously is (since she doesn't give you space) and because in the end, this is about you and you have to look out for yourself, otherwise, nobody else will. When you went back to her, after you broke up, why did you do it? Was it a guilt trip from her or was it because you missed HER (not the kid)?
Swpth makes a very good point in her reply about women needing to be rational in relationships. I think every girl out there needs to really ponder on these facts. Being bossy is stressful and it fills you up with negative vibes. I think that the perfect relationship is one where the 2 people are partners and work as a team, on equal terms. Being bossy goes against that.
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