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Old 08-30-2009, 09:45 PM   #11 (permalink)
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The kid is 9 months old.
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Old 08-30-2009, 09:49 PM   #12 (permalink)
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And where is the kid's dad? If you don't mind me asking.

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Old 08-30-2009, 09:52 PM   #13 (permalink)
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He's in Harrison, Arkansas. Unemployed and not being able to pay child support.

He's, like, 20 years old. Just a stupid kid, who couldn't keep his penis in his Scooby Doo underwear.

She's from Arkansas, by the way. Maybe that should've been a hint?
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Old 08-30-2009, 09:54 PM   #14 (permalink)
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The kid is 9 months old.
The its as if the kid isnt in this equation cuz it will never remember you...i say it cuz i dont believe we have established gender....BUT that doesnt matter....dude have your fun with it and if you dont wanna leave her then you have to set the rules and tell her about what annoys you and what doesnt.....I know I sound like an old man but comunication is key to a successful relationship, and rather than talking about these issues, it seems she use's the here's daddy and I need you in my life and love you to answe any issues....tell her you need space but really it doesnt sound like you want to be there and are just to chill too tell her.....lol


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And where is the kid's dad? If you don't mind me asking.

See previous page....left before he knew the chic was pregnant....

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Old 08-30-2009, 10:57 PM   #15 (permalink)
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All coldcall's posts speak the painful truth. Don't hang around for when that baby is old enough to remember you and ask about you, that would be terribly painful for him.

There are a VERY few women out there who aren't bossy. If I was bossy my husband and I would have thrown each other out windows long ago. Do I use positive reinforcement? Absolutely. Do I withhold, nag, order him around or refuse to give him his personal space? Never. It's a deal breaker and relationship killer.

Make the cleanest break you can, and the suggestion that you can be a friendly, trusted adult for the little boy down the road is an excellent one.
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Yes, I'm getting advice on the net, because I don't feel like talking about it to anyone else.

Okay, I've been with my girlfriend for six months, living with her, seeing her 24/7. Here's the deal: I love her, but I'm not in love with her. I used to be, but the love has died off for some reason.

I love her son to death, and that's the main reason I stay with her. She is pretty bossy sometimes, and I am the type of person who needs my space from time to time.

I don't know, I am happy at times and miserable at times. I once broke up with her about a month ago, but we patched things up. She's in love with me, but I can't say the same.

Anyone ever experienced this? What did you do?

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Probably just lust...people need to be careful in identifying love and confusing it with lust. Love is something that you don't know is there until the lust is gone...and in this case it just isn't there...clearly.

I hope it works out for ya Damone. Honestly...everyone has been where you are and it is hard to break up with someone you know that is entirely in love with you. You just need to be sure that your feelings are true and you are just reading them wrong before you make the choice to leave.
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Old 08-31-2009, 04:39 AM   #17 (permalink)
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She's a selfish ass... But surprise surprise so are you, you just don't realise it. Trust me even more than you think maybe you can be a little selfish, even more than you think maybe other people see you as a little bit selfish, you are more selfish than that....

Maybe all the problem isn't her? Just because you can move on and find another girlfriend, doesn't mean you aren't also the ass in the relationship.

I don't know if you should stay or not - that depends on what you are looking for in a woman, and how likely a woman like that is going to like you. Just saying your post sounded a bit one sided.
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Old 08-31-2009, 12:32 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Coldcall is right and IMO the only way this can turn into a successful relationship is if you guys really take the time and talk honestly. You should tell her these things (that you need space and even that you love her, but don't feel IN love with her) straight up and she should be mature enough to really listen and try to fix whatever is wrong. The same thing happened with my ex (we had quite a few breakups, it was very hard, especially for me, but they all served the greater good and it made us realize that if we were to get into a relationship now, things would work out, because we fully understand each other and still are very good friends, but we're young and don't want to be strapped down). He said he loved me but was not IN love and in our case, space and personal thinking about our issues was what made a real change. However, it took us 3 years to reach a proper level, so you have to really evaluate what you want to do with your life, because it seems to me like your relationship, especially on her part, is headed for the long time term.

Are you ready to commit yourself like that? If you did, would it be the good choice to make and would you be happy and content? Also, focus on yourself when you think about this, because she obviously is (since she doesn't give you space) and because in the end, this is about you and you have to look out for yourself, otherwise, nobody else will. When you went back to her, after you broke up, why did you do it? Was it a guilt trip from her or was it because you missed HER (not the kid)?

Swpth makes a very good point in her reply about women needing to be rational in relationships. I think every girl out there needs to really ponder on these facts. Being bossy is stressful and it fills you up with negative vibes. I think that the perfect relationship is one where the 2 people are partners and work as a team, on equal terms. Being bossy goes against that.
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I've had plenty of experiences like this. Just try to spend less time together. It's easier to gauge your feelings for one another when you aren't together, then compare them to how you feel when you are together. It is easy to just get tired of someone when you are together day in and day out, and that time apart will make you appreciate all the things about her that made you fall in love in the first place.

Hope that helps.

edit: and when I say spend time apart, I mean just try to spend less time together, not break-up or move out. Just try to spend more time on your own.... do your own thing. If that time apart isn't enough, step it up a bit and make it more serious.
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She's a selfish ass... But surprise surprise so are you, you just don't realise it. Trust me even more than you think maybe you can be a little selfish, even more than you think maybe other people see you as a little bit selfish, you are more selfish than that....

Maybe all the problem isn't her? Just because you can move on and find another girlfriend, doesn't mean you aren't also the ass in the relationship.

I don't know if you should stay or not - that depends on what you are looking for in a woman, and how likely a woman like that is going to like you. Just saying your post sounded a bit one sided.

It was one sided.....it was his side....I know we all know that there are two sides to a story....BUT really there are three......hers, Damone's and the truth.....

We have his and can only base our opinion off that, however i agree there is only one position to form an opinion from.....We must assume its true, because at the very least its how he feels, and thats what he should be considering, his feelings, if you dont care about #1 first who's gonna???

I think there is just a comfort level between each that is slowly eroding but it appears to be more quickly for D.....

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