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Old 08-30-2009, 06:34 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Yes, I'm getting advice on the net, because I don't feel like talking about it to anyone else.

Okay, I've been with my girlfriend for six months, living with her, seeing her 24/7. Here's the deal: I love her, but I'm not in love with her. I used to be, but the love has died off for some reason.

I love her son to death, and that's the main reason I stay with her. She is pretty bossy sometimes, and I am the type of person who needs my space from time to time.

I don't know, I am happy at times and miserable at times. I once broke up with her about a month ago, but we patched things up. She's in love with me, but I can't say the same.

Anyone ever experienced this? What did you do?

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Old 08-30-2009, 06:39 PM   #2 (permalink)
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If your not in love with her man then don't stay with her for the kid that's not fair to either of you guys and especially the kid. I know its a pain in the ass sometimes shes great sometimes shes a biatch but thats the territory

I had one before like that and the kid was amazing but i didn't love her and staying with her will just hurt the relationship worse and the kid will get way too attached to you and that will just crush him..
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If your love has already died off after 6 months, then you shouldn't stay with her man.

I'd say split up and stay in good terms with her so you can see the kid every once in a while.

If she's wants the best for her son, she shouldn't mind then.
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Old 08-30-2009, 09:06 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Yes, I'm getting advice on the net, because I don't feel like talking about it to anyone else.

Okay, I've been with my girlfriend for six months, living with her, seeing her 24/7. Here's the deal: I love her, but I'm not in love with her. I used to be, but the love has died off for some reason.

I love her son to death, and that's the main reason I stay with her. She is pretty bossy sometimes, and I am the type of person who needs my space from time to time.

I don't know, I am happy at times and miserable at times. I once broke up with her about a month ago, but we patched things up. She's in love with me, but I can't say the same.

Anyone ever experienced this? What did you do?

Discuss.
Yea bro its the 6 month rule. You find someone awesome, they are the one omg they are the one etc, your brain dumps the shit out of chemicals in your brain when you interact with this person. Going on 6 months your brain gets less crazy and you go back to the person who is really you. It is after that mark with which relationships will be made or broken depending on how much chemistry/compatibility there ever really was. A biological response to help give us a nudge to procreate and move on, but since we're more intelligent than animals we can say "**** you" to our brains/biology/nature and have monogamy. In my opinion, it would be better to break it off. But **** me, its your life, good luck man.
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Old 08-30-2009, 09:13 PM   #5 (permalink)
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If your heart isnt into it and you arent feeling it you gotta bounce dude. Mostly for the KID, if that kid becomes attached to you anymore your gonna screw it up when you do eventually leave.....

As far as the chic goes, you have met one that inst bossy????? LOL

Seriously, I would'nt try to talk to her as she will prob try to convince you to work it out only to have the root emotions come back to the surface and that will have only caused everyone more pain....

Tough spot dude I know you got a good head on your shoulders Damone and I trust you'll make the right call for you....

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BTW: No one on this thread is gonna tell you what you wanna hear....and that is to stay with her....
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Old 08-30-2009, 09:30 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Seriously, I would'nt try to talk to her as she will prob try to convince you to work it out only to have the root emotions come back to the surface and that will have only caused everyone more pain....
This happens all the time. I have tried to break up with her I don't know how many times. I tried it all: "It's not you, it's me" "Maybe we should see other people" "We are just different." She always tries to hug me, kiss me and tell me that she loves me and that she's sorry for everything. It all comes back to me trying to make it work, but only for it to be all worthless efforts. I like to just sit back, chill and do my thing. She always wants to be with me and do stuff with me. I know, she loves me, she's IN love with me, but I need space at times.

There's also this girl, who is friends with my sister, who really likes me and she loves MMA. She calls BJ Penn "Her island prince." She plays the UFC game on X Box with me (Something I never play anymore ). I regret just giving it time with her when I broke up with my current girlfriend for a very brief period of time (Why did I text my current "happy birthday" when we were separated?).

She even tells her son that I'm his "Daddy." Awkward situation I'm in.

I want to hear the truth, not what I want to hear.

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Yea bro its the 6 month rule. You find someone awesome, they are the one omg they are the one etc, your brain dumps the shit out of chemicals in your brain when you interact with this person. Going on 6 months your brain gets less crazy and you go back to the person who is really you. It is after that mark with which relationships will be made or broken depending on how much chemistry/compatibility there ever really was. A biological response to help give us a nudge to procreate and move on, but since we're more intelligent than animals we can say "**** you" to our brains/biology/nature and have monogamy. In my opinion, it would be better to break it off. But **** me, its your life, good luck man
I really hate the "6 month rule." I really, really do.

I mean, my girlfriend can cook a mean meal, so that's cool. she also does my laundry, but I end up buying diapers, formula, milk (Which is disgusting when spat up) and other baby stuff.
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Dude, break that shit off. Better sooner than later, especially if their is a kid involved.

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She even tells her son that I'm his "Daddy." Awkward situation I'm in.
Lmfao, yes, that is very awkward.
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"Here's daddy!"

"Daddy is getting your bottle!"

I just sit there, not saying anything, but thinking "Huh?"

His real dad doesn't want anything to do with him or her. He didn't even try to break up with her, he just vanished. In his defense, he didn't know she was pregnant when this happened. Still, it's your son, go see him. I'm glad he isn't involved though, because that'd be weird for me.
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This happens all the time. I have tried to break up with her I don't know how many times. I tried it all: "It's not you, it's me" "Maybe we should see other people" "We are just different." She always tries to hug me, kiss me and tell me that she loves me and that she's sorry for everything. It all comes back to me trying to make it work, but only for it to be all worthless efforts. I like to just sit back, chill and do my thing. She always wants to be with me and do stuff with me. I know, she loves me, she's IN love with me, but I need space at times.

There's also this girl, who is friends with my sister, who really likes me and she loves MMA. She calls BJ Penn "Her island prince." She plays the UFC game on X Box with me (Something I never play anymore ). I regret just giving it time with her when I broke up with my current girlfriend for a very brief period of time (Why did I text my current "happy birthday" when we were separated?).

She even tells her son that I'm his "Daddy." Awkward situation I'm in.

I want to hear the truth, not what I want to hear.



I really hate the "6 month rule." I really, really do.

I mean, my girlfriend can cook a mean meal, so that's cool. she also does my laundry, but I end up buying diapers, formula, milk (Which is disgusting when spat up) and other baby stuff.

I've been right where your at minus the kid, your probably better off leaving. plus you have the ability to e intrested in another chic after only 6 months, plus in todays world no one can say they are truely in love with you after 6 months....

She will always do that to you as far as kissing you and saying sorry and all that......The way mine ended was i got up one day and walked out after banging the shit out of her the night before......

I never respnded to her for a week, we were living or staying at each others places......after she was like WTF i told her over the Phone(shitty but they dont call me coldcall for nothin)....

I did this because it happened to me with a chic that i loved....she told me the reason she did it that way is cuz she couldnt look at me and do it or we would still be together....Its a vicious cycle.....My best advice is break it and get into this other girl to keep your mind off the chic and if you feel that bad perhaps possibly down the road you could serve as a big brother type for this girls kid........

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"Here's daddy!"

"Daddy is getting your bottle!"

I just sit there, not saying anything, but thinking "Huh?"

His real dad doesn't want anything to do with him or her. He didn't even try to break up with her, he just vanished. In his defense, he didn't know she was pregnant when this happened. Still, it's your son, go see him. I'm glad he isn't involved though, because that'd be weird for me.

Bottle indicates young and I was thinkin like 4-5....dude leave her..........she isnt even talkin to the baby when she says that.....she's telling you!!!!!!

Sorry for the double post......

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