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post #11 of 110 (permalink) Old 06-30-2009, 03:26 PM
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She is clearly willing or already has strayed. I think the most prudent thing to do is to end things. Shit between you two is already tainted. Even if you try and work things out you will always have trust issues. No matter how much it hurts, leave her be and let her figure her shit out. The most important thing for you to do is try and make sure that everything between you and her is civil. Not because she deserves that, but for the kid. I think it is much better for you two to separate and be able to give your child the most stable environment possible, than to have a caustic relationship that the child will witness and internalize. Sorry that you have to deal with this. Cheating/betrayal of trust always sucks. You just need to make sure whatever you do that it is in the best interest of your child.
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kick the **** out of him or take a more calm approach... on second thoughs, kick the **** out of him
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Tell your kid what she is doing. It is the ultimate win. They will be upset at first, but she loses forever. If the house is yours dump all her shit outside. If not just leave and don't come back when she is gone on her excursion. Don't answer any calls, don't talk to her, don't reply to any letters or mail (unless legally necessary). Do all the legal stuff by the book. Ask your kid who they want to stay with.

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Tell your kid what she is doing. It is the ultimate win. They will be upset at first, but she loses forever. If the house is yours dump all her shit outside. If not just leave and don't come back when she is gone on her excursion. Don't answer any calls, don't talk to her, don't reply to any letters or mail (unless legally necessary). Do all the legal stuff by the book. Ask your kid who they want to stay with.

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Not sure getting the kid directly involved is the best idea. I have friends whose parents played the game of tearing down the other parent and bribing the child and it seemed like it only had adverse effects on the childs development. My suggesting for that is to leave the kid out of it as much as possible (Not sure how old he is so understanding at this point might not even be an issue).

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This is the post where I am going to tell you some crazy shit you don't want to hear, but I am going to be completely right whether you like it or not.

You need to wash your hands of this bitch. Where do you live? If it is your place and in your name, lease or not you need to have the locks changed. You also need to move all of her stuff out and into storage or to her friends/relatives place, which she will pick up and pay the fee for or be embarrassed to pick it up from. I am sorry to tell you this but you will not recover this relationship, it is over no matter what you want to tell yourself, it is over. Now it is time for damage control, any of her friends like you? Maybe even her sister? Maybe you got the feeling they found you sexually attractive? Maybe you could **** them? If not I'd suggest going to some local bars to get a couple or several emotionally distancing ****s out of your system.



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Nope, we just fight it for as long as we can.



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Get out man, get out. It is not going to be a good situation for either you or the child to stay in a relationship like this.


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No worries mate, you need to say goodbye, take the pain for a while and find someone new. It sucks, been there done that, but from some wisdom the best advice is to move on. In a couple of years youll look at her and laugh and say WTF was I thinking. And also when her and her lovers spell wears off (it always does) shell probably come running back to you, just say NO.
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Get a private detective to follow and get proof of her cheating. Then get custody of the kid, and kick her out. Who earns more?
Courts will not award custody to the father under these circumstances. Mothers always win those battles when they have a heartbeat that isn't too affected by addiction, but even then it is a toss up

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