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post #41 of 110 (permalink) Old 07-03-2009, 06:42 AM Thread Starter
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I was just wanting to say all's well that end's well. I have a habit of being really ******* paranoid. Basically those messages (about visiting him) are from about a week or two ago, two or three days before we had the huge fight and she told him they're just friends. I talked to her about the other message ("I miss you babe") and she said he still says weird shit like that sometimes. I've been with her for about 5 years and I know she was being honest.


Also I told her I have his address committed to memory (I do) and if she goes to visit him I'll slit his throat. >:[ANGRY JUBAL]:<

She's stopped hiding what she says to him (gave me access to her email and everything) and stopped exiting conversations with him when I walked by so I'm pretty sure she came around. Also, she's bipolar and she wasnt taking her medicine for a while and thats a HUGE side effect of it.


Bottom line. We're still together and I plan to be for a much longer time as our relationship is better now than it has been for quite a while. Thanks for the advice though (glad I didnt follow it but I came really ******* close, if only my friend picked up his phone at 5AM)


ALSO TO ANSWER OTHER QUESTIONS:
She's our child

I'm a stay at home dad (laid off 6 months ago and cant get a job because hten we'd need a babysitter blahblah easier if I stay home, she says that nto me, I WANT to get a job so bad.)

We live in ohio, there's no ******* way I'd get custody of her but she knows I'd go to the gates of hell and call otu Satan himself to get visitation rights for my little girl, she's my life.

Girl's alllmost 2, september 21st.

We ARENT married (yet >.>)

I'm 20.

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Errr ok that changes a lot of things... people with bipolar disorder are hard to live with I imagine...

If you are planning on staying home for a while marriage would be a good idea, otherwise good luck with the job search.

Glad things worked out ok. Though I'm not sure exactly whats up...

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OHSHITUPDATE


I was just wanting to say all's well that end's well. I have a habit of being really ******* paranoid. Basically those messages (about visiting him) are from about a week or two ago, two or three days before we had the huge fight and she told him they're just friends. I talked to her about the other message ("I miss you babe") and she said he still says weird shit like that sometimes. I've been with her for about 5 years and I know she was being honest.


Also I told her I have his address committed to memory (I do) and if she goes to visit him I'll slit his throat. >:[ANGRY JUBAL]:<

She's stopped hiding what she says to him (gave me access to her email and everything) and stopped exiting conversations with him when I walked by so I'm pretty sure she came around. Also, she's bipolar and she wasnt taking her medicine for a while and thats a HUGE side effect of it.


Bottom line. We're still together and I plan to be for a much longer time as our relationship is better now than it has been for quite a while. Thanks for the advice though (glad I didnt follow it but I came really ******* close, if only my friend picked up his phone at 5AM)


ALSO TO ANSWER OTHER QUESTIONS:
She's our child

I'm a stay at home dad (laid off 6 months ago and cant get a job because hten we'd need a babysitter blahblah easier if I stay home, she says that nto me, I WANT to get a job so bad.)

We live in ohio, there's no ******* way I'd get custody of her but she knows I'd go to the gates of hell and call otu Satan himself to get visitation rights for my little girl, she's my life.

Girl's alllmost 2, september 21st.

We ARENT married (yet >.>)

I'm 20.

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1). Look into some kind of sleep aid, doesn't have to be prescription. Being able to sleep changes almost everything in subtle but profound ways.

2). Especially since you have a child, your fiance CANNOT stop taking her medicine at any time unless her dr. switches her over to something else.

3). Her giving your access to her email is promising. That doesn't rule out the possibility of her having opened another account elsewhere, however.

4). Don't make any concrete wedding plans just yet. This stuff has to be all sorted out before you do.


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1). Look into some kind of sleep aid, doesn't have to be prescription. Being able to sleep changes almost everything in subtle but profound ways.

2). Especially since you have a child, your fiance CANNOT stop taking her medicine at any time unless her dr. switches her over to something else.

3). Her giving your access to her email is promising. That doesn't rule out the possibility of her having opened another account elsewhere, however.

4). Don't make any concrete wedding plans just yet. This stuff has to be all sorted out before you do.
If I may add on Ms. Swpthleg.

5). Don't be afraid to play some games with her, if she's a huge CS:S fan, try and find maybe a laptop or something and play it with her. I'm sure she'll dig that a lot and the other guy will back off when he sees you there as bait.


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Start playing CS 1.6 and give her shit for playing shitty ass Source.
I like this the most LOL. I played 1.6 for so long, I like source so much better though.

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1). Look into some kind of sleep aid, doesn't have to be prescription. Being able to sleep changes almost everything in subtle but profound ways.

2). Especially since you have a child, your fiance CANNOT stop taking her medicine at any time unless her dr. switches her over to something else.

3). Her giving your access to her email is promising. That doesn't rule out the possibility of her having opened another account elsewhere, however.

4). Don't make any concrete wedding plans just yet. This stuff has to be all sorted out before you do.
I'm fine without a sleep aid, I dont mind not sleeping. I get about 5 hours a night most nights and I have since I was in like middle school. I dont LIKE to sleep lol.

She just got put ojn the medicine a few months ago and we're still trying to get into the habit of reminding her to take it :\

She does nothing on this computer that I don't know about, trust me. I went to school for computers. I've taken classes in computer forensics lol.

No concrete plans yet, just hoping we do eventually.

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I am WAY too ****in poor to get a laptop lol. I have my mediacenter (which I plan on playing CS with her on) but I need a bigger HDD first I'm the one who got her into the game and stuff so it's not like I'm alienating ehr for playing it.
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Wait I thought good laptops had gotten cheaper....crap.


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No actually they went up in price because of ******* "netbooks". Terrible, terrible things netbooks are.
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IDK what they are, but they do sound exceptionally terrible.


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I was just wanting to say all's well that end's well. I have a habit of being really ******* paranoid.
This time you seemed to be right on the money though.

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Basically those messages (about visiting him) are from about a week or two ago
And that makes it ok?

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, two or three days before we had the huge fight and she told him they're just friends. I talked to her about the other message ("I miss you babe") and she said he still says weird shit like that sometimes. I've been with her for about 5 years and I know she was being honest.
Not to be a dick, but you come off as being entirely too dependent on this chick; in a way that seems to be negatively affecting your self-worth and confidence.

I hate to tell you this but pushing all of the evidence to the back of your mind is only going to make you feel better temporarily, especially when it seems likely she'll do this crap at another point. You forgiving her certainly won't deter it from happening again.

What do your guy friends think about all of this? Do you stay in contact with a lot of them? What do they think of your fiancÚ? All I know is I'd be the devil in your ear telling you that the very fact that you felt enough and found enough to create this thread, that your girl wasn't actin right. Why were directions given to his house? Why was he asking when she'd visit? Maybe I'm territorial with women or something, but that kinda stuff is just nuts to me.

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She's stopped hiding what she says to him (gave me access to her email and everything) and stopped exiting conversations with him when I walked by so I'm pretty sure she came around. Also, she's bipolar and she wasnt taking her medicine for a while and thats a HUGE side effect of it.
Being bi-polar is an excuse to openly talk to another guy who refers to her as "babe", cover it up, and then just act like everything is normal again? And even if it did, that's what you want for the rest of your life?

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Thanks for the advice though (glad I didnt follow it but I came really ******* close, if only my friend picked up his phone at 5AM)
If took this correctly, listen to Tiger and don't blame the guy. Why wouldn't he given the opportunity your fiancÚ has given him? Why should he care about you? Why doesn't your fiancÚ?

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Also I told her I have his address committed to memory (I do) and if she goes to visit him I'll slit his throat. >:[ANGRY JUBAL]:<
It really bothers me when the guy gets mad at the other guy and not the girl when events like this take place.

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Glad things worked out ok. Though I'm not sure exactly whats up...
That's basically our nice way of saying we're glad your life is no longer "shit" but how do you not see the writing on the wall?

This is such a weird thread. Given your only two responses on here Trai, it seems like you're also bi-polar (this was meant more as a joke than it comes off as). "Cheating bitch" to "nah it's cool, she's just bi-polar and all that weird shit is all good now that I can see her emails." It's another one of those vent-a-threads where the person venting never actually wanted to take the advice given in the thread in the first place, so advice-givers just go, "oh…that's greaaaat…you're back with her and she's told you she's not gonna be weird. Yaaaay (arms raised halfway above our shoulders)!"

I understand that's your child's mother and you've been with her since you were 15, but you should be thinking about moving on from this. You've spent a large portion of your logical thinking life with this girl and you really don't seem to know any different. Reality is girls just don't have "friends" on the internet that "miss them" and give out their address in hopes of seeing them. I dunno man, do what you gotta do. I just think you need to do a lot more thinking about yourself. It seems your fiancÚ has already taken to that advice.

PS – sorry to come off like a dick.

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