Originally Posted by All_In_GSP
This time you seemed to be right on the money though.
And that makes it ok?
Not to be a dick, but you come off as being entirely too dependent on this chick; in a way that seems to be negatively affecting your self-worth and confidence.
I hate to tell you this but pushing all of the evidence to the back of your mind is only going to make you feel better temporarily, especially when it seems likely she'll do this crap at another point. You forgiving her certainly won't deter it from happening again.
What do your guy friends think about all of this? Do you stay in contact with a lot of them? What do they think of your fiancé? All I know is I'd be the devil in your that the very fact that you felt enough and found enough to create this thread, that your girl wasn't actin right. Why were directions given to his house? Why was he asking when she'd visit? Maybe I'm territorial with women or something, but that kinda stuff is just nuts to me.
Being bi-polar is an excuse to openly talk to another guy who refers to her as "babe", cover it up, and then just act like everything is normal again? And even if it did, that's what you want for the rest of your life?
Thanks for the advice though (glad I didnt follow it but I came really ******* close, if only my friend picked up his phone at 5AM)
If took this correctly, listen to Tiger and don't blame the guy. Why wouldn't he given the opportunity you fiancé has given him? Why should he care about you? Why doesn't your fiancé?
Also I told her I have his address committed to memory (I do) and if she goes to visit him I'll slit his throat. >:[ANGRY JUBAL]:< [/quote]
It really bothers me when the guy gets mad at the other guy and not the girl when events like this take place.
That's basically our nice way of saying we're glad your life is no longer "shit" but how do you not see the writing on the wall?
This is such a weird thread. Given your only two responses on here Trai, it seems like you're also bi-polar. "Cheating bitch" too "nah it's cool, she's just bi-polar and all that weird shit is all good now that I can see her emails." It's another one of those vent-a-threads where they never actually wanted to take the advice given in the thread in the first place, so advice-givers just go, "oh…that's greaaaat…you're back with her and she's told you she's not gonna be weird. Yaaaay (arms raised halfway above our shoulders)! I understand that's your child's mother and you've been with her since you were 15, but you should be thinking about moving on from this. You've spent a large portion of your logical thinking life with this girl and you really don't seem to know any different. Reality is girls just don't have "friends" on the internet that "miss them" and give out their address in hopes of seeing them. I dunno man, do what you gotta do. I just think you need to do a lot more thinking about yourself. It seems your fiancé has already taken to that advice.
PS – sorry to come off like a dick.[/quote]
all right, tiem to clear more up.
I have in no way put this in the back of my mind trust me. It's still there and still very prevalent. I know what she did and I'm not about to forget it. Its not like she says "we're just friends nwo" and gets off clean. She's on probation to say the least.
I wasn't JUST mad at the other dude. I was really pissed at her too, I just didnt post the conversation verbatim in here (too mch foul language :P)
The reason I AM mad at the dude is because I talked to him about it before I even said ANYTHING to her. I told him I knew everything and I told him that it's ****ed up, we have a kid etc. He completely ignored it and proceeded to call me a psycho boy friend ETC and basically all around disrespected me for it. I was trying to eb the better man about it and NOT be mad at him. After all, sometimes the other guy just doesnt know. He did. He had no excuse other than massive doucheness. I know that I'd never do that to another man. If I'm hitting on a girl and her boyfriend is like "Hey dude, chill the **** out, we have a family and you're messing shit up" I'd immediately stop. Thats totally ****ed up and completely disrespectful, so I think I reserve every right to be mad at him.
Like I said, I've told her she's on probation. The first time she pulls something like this again and I'm leaving and taking our daughter with us in a heartbeat.
the email access thing is more a sign that I can trust her. Just because I CAN doesnt mean I am. If she acts like shes got something to hide then maybe, but I'm not just randomly going to check her email and shit.
And yes, being self destructive/searching for someone else/ruining marriages is actually a fairly common side effect of bipolar disorder. I've talked ot her doctor and her counselor about it.