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Mike Male$h 06-08-2010 01:27 PM

People calling each others "retards" /other demeaning words
I am absolutely sick and tired of every single online game or community I go to there is always somebody calling someone a "retard", "tard" or, some other demeaning word. I fail to understand how in any sense this is funny or even makes sense in the context its in. Everyone goes around using it for everything as the most common comeback or used an "funny" insult, being called a "retard" is not funny most of the time in eyes of the person who is being insulted or made fun of, even if it is inside a virtual world, that person you are talking to does have feelings, every human being has feelings and you better think again by saying it otherwise.

There are people out there that might take it extremely seriously and you have NO idea, NONE on how it effects them unless they either tell you or your some magic know it all who thinks its just a joke? I do NOT think being "retarded" is a joke or even remotely funny, so not being able to function using SIMPLE motor skills, using basic thinking capacities is fun they how about you try it a day...

So you go online, whatever game or forum it is(anything) and you see some person for some reason you hate them enough or just think their stupid because they don't match YOUR standards, who gave you the ******* right to set the world standards? You think their dumb, you want to be lets call it humorous so you quickly think of some of the simplest, easiest words to use to insult someone. One of the first that now often comes to our head? Retard. So you decide to call them a Retard in your little heated argument well lets see they were able to properly communicate to you by responding to your little word, they understand it and they might have previously made an argument such as this one before you called them a tard. Hmm that person does NOT sound retarded to me.... yet YOU have absolutely NO idea AT ALL on how your name calling and bullying them can possible effect them in REAL LIFE. You have to realize behind every monitor there is a HUMAN being, think before you act and speak and most of all follow the classic rule of how you would want to be treated.

Now you want to call me a retard? Okay do it, you don't know me, you have NO idea what my personal life is. So call be a god damn ******* retard. Hmm, lets just evaluate what you just did... ONE, you INSULTED me, TWO, you've PISSED me off beyond belief and THREE you make remind me in an odd sense how lucky I am and last but not least you don't know me, but what IF, WHAT IF my life was different than what you thought, like Ive said you don't know who is behind the screen until now. You've not only insulted me but someone EXTREMELY close to me and many others like him....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You've not insulted that person but maybe a person they know, if you call me a retard heres a little surprise you may have NEVER thought of... Meet my brother Max...

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That is my younger brother, now do you think a person like that is trolling on these forums? I think not. Would YOU, the person who called ME that, be like he is? Would YOU like to have somebody have to do MANY of the SIMPLEST daily functions for you, changing your diaper, bathing you, feeding you, always having to support you? Being Mentally Retarded is not funny, not even close. My brother Max who is 14 was born with his condition known as cerebral palsy, he is unable to think like all of us, he doesn't know there is something called years, days of the week, food etc. So you want to be called that? See how damn insulting that is to them. Going out in public, people like this are stared at ALL of the time. We go to a top notch restaurant, people ASK NOT TO BE SEATED NEAR US, because of my brother, would YOU think thats funny if thats YOUR family? Want to say it to their face. Let me ask you something? If you were to call me a retard, would YOU EVER think I had a BROTHER like that, who I have to take care of daily help with all the time, who goes through several intense seizures a month, who almost died twice from intense episodes. So having .gifs and such of seizures and stuff like that is funny? People die from them btw.

You know what else is NOT funny?
When he turns older I have to adopt him by law because my parents combined ages will be too old. Meaning I have to make HIS LIFE CHOICES where he goes, what happens to him and so forth. I will be his legal guardian. Thats not funny.

When Max was born I didn't know he was going to become both a hardship and a joy when I grew up. He is the insight that rarely anyone besides my family and people at school know about. My brother Max has cerebral paulsy in his left arm and was born with it at birth. He is severely disabled not really being able to communicate (besides making noises, clapping etc) and he is not able to walk and such. He is a huge inspiration to have even though you wish he wasn?t like how he is I think to myself how blessed I am to have him and how special he is to me and I will miss him dearly when he?s gone. The only people who really knew about him up to this point were as most other people don?t care. I just wish people will notice what a joy those kids can be and just because they are different it doesn?t mean they shall be shunned or disrespected in public.

The reason I wrote this was because people are always going around making fun of some kids online for being 'retards' not even knowing what the word means or making fun of some teenager as he "sucks" you NEVER know who or what their situation is behind that screen you NEVER know so guys please the next time you talk shit to some stranger online think about how it could effect them, you may never know how that can emotionally of physically effect them.

You DO NOT know that persons life behind the monitor think before you act.

Best wishes to everyone, please feel to share and respond. (maturely though as I know all this crap talk to one another goes on EVERYWHERE, behind the screen & off)

G_Land 06-08-2010 02:08 PM

If you are offended by something take it up with a Mod

Mike Male$h 06-08-2010 02:27 PM


Originally Posted by G_Land (Post 1198429)
If you are offended by something take it up with a Mod

no this is just in general, everywhere.

Toxic 06-08-2010 02:32 PM

I know exactly how you feel, I have a sister who is deaf blind and suffers from cerebral palsy. To be honest though this thread offends me. You want to know something, the term retard has a lot of negative stereotypes attached to it and I would never consider my sister "retarded" my sister is handicapped but if you called her a retard I would punch you in the face.

G_Land 06-08-2010 02:36 PM


Originally Posted by Toxic (Post 1198442)
I know exactly how you feel, I have a sister who is deaf blind and suffers from cerebral palsy. To be honest though this thread offends me. You want to know something, the term retard has a lot of negative stereotypes attached to it and I would never consider my sister "retarded" my sister is handicapped but if you called her a retard I would punch you in the face.

I was gonna bring that up but I didnt want to flame anything up

Mirage445 06-08-2010 03:06 PM

A few stances on this:

1) A large percent of the people who insult people online probably would not insult someone the same way to their face. The internet is largely anonymous, no one knows who you are, where you live, ect. Even if they do, chances are they're miles away. This gives people a feeling of security to say things they normally wouldn't.

2) Everyone is different, from different walks of life, and different life experiences...different people will be offended by different things. A perfect example of this is in this very thread where you call your brother "Mentally Retarded", Toxic then states that he would never refer to his handicapped sister as a retard and would punch someone in the face if they had called her that. Like it or not a lot of the time on the internet when there is a difference of opinion, there is a chance an insult/offensive joke or two might be thrown out.

Let me ask you this, have you EVER made a joke related to race/sex/faith/physical appearance?

Chances are if you have, you offended someone.

Redrum 06-08-2010 03:25 PM

Hey, Mike, I think that you will find that on this particular site, the moderators are excellent. They do not tolerate the type of languaage you are referring to.

You are, of course, right, and I am very happy to see you sticking up for and looking out for your brother. He's very lucky to have someone like you.

M.C 06-08-2010 03:34 PM

If you're playing a video game, and you're playing online, and someone on your team shoots you in the head, it's fair to call that person a retard.

The reason why "retard" is used so often, is becasue like the word "***" it's turned into a general insult, rather than actually calling the person mentally retarded. Words change over time, especially insults, and something like "retard" is used as a general insult, like calling someone stupid, calling them an idiot, saying "you suck". I mean, "you suck" could mean you suck.. what? Suck.. well, I won't go there, but you see
what I'm saying? "you suck" just means.. you suck, no real definition to it when used as an insult, the same way when retard or "***" is used as an insult, it isn't about the actaul definition of the word.

Also, I agree with Mirage, if you have ever insulted someone's weight/skin/religion/sex/height/race, even the color of their teeth or hair (blonde jokes), you have offended someone and insulted someone. I'm going to go out on a limb and say, if you're over like 18, the chances of you NEVER insulting a group of people/someone with one of of the above "conditions", is extremely small.

Redrum is also correct, on this forum here we don't allow anyone to insult each other, it's against the forum rules, my post is just a general post about the subject at hand.

coldcall420 06-08-2010 03:39 PM

If you dont like it here leave.....Im sure you dont want to hear that but Frankly I dont care about your issues. Its not cuz im cold hearted but Toxic raises a valid point.

The reality is your on the internet as you pointed out. NO MATTER where you go there are going to be people throwing terms out that you may be offended by.....its called life!!

I used to be picked on till i learned to fight, Im not gonna post a thread about bullies on a forum.

In all seriousness you have 19 posts on this forum, meaning that you really have not interacted with anyone to get to know how people are on this site.

As you stated above this was a statement made "in general".....thats life buddy and it isnt gonna change....its the internet, you knew that when you logged on so pick your poison. That does not refer to this forum either its just in genaral as you pointed out above..

Seriously your family member who is sick that sucks and for that I am sorry. otherwise I think this was a stupid thread.....

EDIT: Michael Carson is spitting knowledge...listen to it....people use words that they are really not intending to insult as MC pointed out...:thumbsup:

RAM32 06-08-2010 03:41 PM


Originally Posted by Mirage445 (Post 1198472)
Let me ask you this, have you EVER made a joke related to race/sex/faith/physical appearance?

Chances are if you have, you offended someone.

and chances are he has.

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