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post #11 of 33 (permalink) Old 10-08-2011, 03:16 AM
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He has no fear of being jobless? If not, that's a problem right there.

I want to mouth off at my work place constantly at the incompetant nobless gimps i work with, but i restrain myself and act accordingly because i value my job.
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Relax, but honestly have you stopped for a second and considered that maybe he hates his job. Honestly and truly he may never tell you because he may have to much pride about wanting to be the man and provide for his family cause that is what the man is supposed to do. Maybe he hates his job and only continues to do it because its the best way for him to make money right now, when you hate your job you go to work with a big chip on your shoulder every day,.




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Relax, but honestly have you stopped for a second and considered that maybe he hates his job. Honestly and truly he may never tell you because he may have to much pride about wanting to be the man and provide for his family cause that is what the man is supposed to do. Maybe he hates his job and only continues to do it because its the best way for him to make money right now, when you hate your job you go to work with a big chip on your shoulder every day,.
I would tend to agree but.. the fact is not that many people truly love their job - if you have a job you love you're a lucky ****er. I can't say i love my job, as a result i have to act accordingly, i may not love my job but i'm not going to abuse or throw books at people because of it.

I think either Ari's husband has a temper problem he is not able to control or doesn't value his income, if you're loaded the latter doesn't matter i guess.
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Well it's a hard situation to grasp only via a description on the net. I'll do my best to give an unbiased thought through answer.

If you truly do love your husband, and enjoy your life with him, and the only problem is his anger-issues at work and all that comes with it, then I don't think you should leave him. Atleast not permanently.

It doesn't have to be all black and white. You could give him a dilemma though. I'd say tell him, and make sure he understands that you really mean it, that you have had it with this issue and if nothing happens, drasical changes will be made. If he still refuses therapy and/or medication then maybe take your relative up on the offer on living with them and completing school. That way he might get some time to think things over and get his priorities straight.

If you do this however, try to still keep contact alot and ofcourse let the man see his kids whenever he wants and has the possibility to come see them.

This way you get to complete school and will be set for the future, and he will have time to maybe realize that this is serious sh*t. This way you can get back together as normal when you are done with school and he hopefully bettered himself. If not then maybe it is time to split up.

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"You're married a horrible man and a horrible person. I'm sorry that you were unfortunate enough to have children with him, hopefully you'll do the smart thing and leave him."

Used to, I would take comments like these with a grain of salt,

Have other people made comments like this directly to you about your husband?
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So what you're saying is....



You're going to be single?





























JK. That is a really tough situation and it does suck. By all means your family is #1 and do what you need to in order to take care of them. 3 jobs in 3 years and a refusal to change is a pretty big red flag. I feel for yah and really hope this works out.

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Have other people made comments like this directly to you about your husband?
Consistently. Some of his coworkers would call me and ask me how I deal with him. It's pretty embarrassing. However on the other hand, I have people outside of work, specifically the wives of my husband's friends who will ask me "how did you get so lucky?" Like I said, I've done some pretty stupid shit before, and my husband has never so much as raised his voice towards me. Same with his family. His mom has told me that they really never had to get on to him when he was still a kid and living at home.

And I talked to my husband this morning, and they decided not to fire him. They're having him work at home instead until he undergoes 120 hours of intensive anger management therapy. They're also moving him to information systems management, where he will essentially work in isolation when he gets back. Apparently what drives my husband is the "apathy" that others have towards their jobs, and it makes him grumpy. At the same time though, he's 27 years old for nature's sake. He should know that's how the world is by now.

I'm going with him to some of his therapy because I honestly want to know what the real reason is behind this whole ordeal. Hopefully he can turn it around.

Thanks everyone for the advice.

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I have a feeling you are just trolling us.
The part of being tested for bipolarity made me lol real hard.









In case you aren't, and you meant what you wrote, just dump the dude.
Obviously you two are not well together, because if you were alright for each other:

A - You wouldn't even consider dropping the relationship because of material issues.
B - You wouldn't be coming to a internet forum ask a bunch of strangers what to do.
C - A and B are so blatantly strong, that no further thinking is needed.

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I've asked for advice before on this site. Whats wrong with it? You know the upside to getting advice from "strangers? They give unbiased advice. If it was so stupid why do people call radio shows to get advice from the show hosts?



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I've asked for advice before on this site. Whats wrong with it? You know the upside to getting advice from "strangers? They give unbiased advice. If it was so stupid why do people call radio shows to get advice from the show hosts?
Because they are very stupid?

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