Husband got fired, again. Need some advice.
So...I'm normally not the type of person to make threads like this, but I need some honest, unbiased advice. My best friend is my husband's sister...And I know she's going to always take his side. The person I'm closest to in my family is my older brother, and he's always going to take my side.
My husband has been through three jobs in three years. He has an MHA (Master of Healthcare Administration), so he's been lucky enough to have a degree from a top-level University in one of the few steady job markets in the US. However, he has been fired from his last three jobs because well...He's an asshole.
My husband and I get along fine and he's great with our kids and my niece and nephew. He also gets along really well with the family I still keep in touch with. But for some reason in the workplace, he's a different person. This morning he got fired because over 50 people in the hospital that he works with have complained to human resources that my husband is consistently rude, grumpy, and unapproachable. He got fired from his last job in Texas for throwing a book at an important board member while also calling her a racial epithet, and a c*nt. His job before that, several people wrote up a petition to have him fired for his behavior.
I've had several discussions with my husband about controlling his mood swings and temper, and he's also been to anger management therapy and has several books on relaxation therapy, but none of it seems to work. A girl that worked with him also just called me a minute ago and told me this: "You're married a horrible man and a horrible person. I'm sorry that you were unfortunate enough to have children with him, hopefully you'll do the smart thing and leave him."
Used to, I would take comments like these with a grain of salt, but this has happened three times already, and my husband is 27 years old and isn't the type of person that will change.
Still, I'm not sure what to do. Part of me thinks something might actually be wrong with him, and I've asked him to go get tested for having bipolar personality disorder, but he refuses. With me and my friends and family, he's so laid back and nice. He's fantastic with our kids, and I think he's going to be an incredible father, but this kind of stuff can't keep happening. I've postponed getting my degree and transferred universities because he lost his first job. I had to move all the way across the country and leave my friends and family behind because he lost his second job. And now we're living in a house that we just took a mortgage out on. He has student loans to pay off, and I don't make near enough as a stay at home tax consultant to support him, and two babies. The fact that he's now been fired from three jobs in three years is going to make him extremely difficult to hire, especially considering the fact that he has a horrible track record of getting along with people in the workplace in general.
I know this sounds like an absolute bitch thing to say, but if he can't get his shit together, I'm definitely going to consider leaving him and taking the kids with me. I guess he just isn't mature enough to control his behavior and mood swings in a professional environment, and I will NOT subject my kids to having that kind of instability. I've already talked to my brother and he's offered to let me and the kids come stay with him and his wife while I get a Master's degree. At the same time however, I really don't want to leave my husband, but at this point I don't think I have any other choice.
Sorry for venting, but I know you guys will give me an unbiased answer.