[oldfan]

Originally Posted by Aspoestertjie

It is a 'theory' because so many women are insecure about themselves. There are many women out there that are afraid to be alone. They are in some way dependent on a man, even if that man is abusive. Many of them are financially dependent and have no else to go, or that is what they believe. So they return to the men who abuse them. Many are afraid of the men who abuse them. Afraid that they will be killed if they do not comply with his needs and demands.

Insecurity and the fear of not being able to survive alone can lead women to even face abuse and later on even accept that they are just the emotional/physical punching bag of all men. They believe that is what they are here for. It is the purpose for their existence.

I usually feel sorry for women like that. To change their mind and to tell them there is hope in finding someone who will respect them and treat them with dignity is a difficult task. They are simply too afraid. Women are also afraid of being alone. I am alone, and it scares me to think I might grow old alone. What counts in my favor is the fact that I do not need to be financially dependent on any man. Many women do not have that luxury and therefor take the option to stay with abusive men.

It is easy to get to the conclusion you got to. If you however consider the circumstances around the decisions these women you know have made it, then the 'theory' might be debunked.

Pay attention boys. You're getting true pearls of wisdom.


.......on a mma forum.... go figure

[Hammerlock2.0]

There are actually women who are not so difficult at all. My girlfriend who I've been with for over 4 years now is one of them. She's straight forward and dead honest. I've never had to figure out what's up with her when she gives me some sort of look that I don't understand because she just tells me when I ask. My ex-girlfriend is another story. She'd always tell me I didn't have time for her. At that time I had to be at school from 8 in the morning till 5 in the afternoon and I spent almost every evening with her. The thing is... she had to be at school too. And she'd always start fights about things that are not even important in the slightest and make them into a huge issue like when I said I'd rather watch Sin City than Wedding Crashers. It ended up being a discussion about how I don't respect her feelings. Go figure...

[Aspoestertjie]

@ Hammerlock

Unfortunately you do get women like your ex girlfriend. I call those women "fighting fit". It is just their insecurity which makes them do that. And this is not only applicable to women. Men also sometimes have problems of insecurity.

The only way these people can feel better about themselves is when they make someone else feel inferior to them.

If a woman is at peace with herself and her circumstances, she will be a better partner. That is why your current girlfriend is the better partner. It is important that both men and women understand AND accept each other's needs. If a woman doesn't want to acknowledge your needs and doesn't want to accept them, then you need to ask yourself why she is that way. If she is that way because of something you do wrong, then you can maybe change that behavior. If she is that way because she has alternative motives (might have someone else in her life), then you can't change that behavior. Then it is best to go your separate paths and stop working on each other's nerves.

[JuggNuttz]

women are evil and vindictive. plain and simple... the evil is so deep it's in their blood.... which is why it has to be drained and replaced once a month.

i have 2 older sisters, and growing up, their friends were also my friends. and to hear them talking shit about good guys and playing voicemails of guys trying to sound sweet to them to only make fun of them.... plus my own experiences of me trying to be the best i can and making them happy and such.... evil evil creatures.... honestly if it wasnt for the sex, id SO be gay!

so yeah, i always make the joke, but i may start doing it....

Just rent them.... you get the sex you want, they get the money, which is all women want, and then they go the **** away. win-win for all.

[Sugar-Free_LizaG]

Originally Posted by PistolPete

My wife always nixes anything I want to do. If I want to go training she always complains that I train too much. If I buy lunch during the weeks she complains that I should brown bag it. I'm looking to buy a new street bike (bicycle) and she is giving me so much crap. I make a really good living and I'm sick of sneaking around buying things. I'm prob. still going to buy the bike but I just don't need all this stress.

Why do women always try to control you? WTF!!!! If I was single I would have so many more toys and freedom. Why can't they just support what we want to do and encourage us?

Ironically I once had a boyfriend who did the same thing to me! lol, unfortunately different people have different characters, this one is difficult....it's life I'm afraid. Just go ahead and do your thing, if she complains again then just moan like she does when she nexts decides to buy shoes, or wants sex lol

[punchbag]

Originally Posted by PistolPete

My wife always nixes anything I want to do. If I want to go training she always complains that I train too much. If I buy lunch during the weeks she complains that I should brown bag it. I'm looking to buy a new street bike (bicycle) and she is giving me so much crap. I make a really good living and I'm sick of sneaking around buying things. I'm prob. still going to buy the bike but I just don't need all this stress.

Why do women always try to control you? WTF!!!! If I was single I would have so many more toys and freedom. Why can't they just support what we want to do and encourage us?

Women control us anyway bud, because no matter what we do, say, or advance as a species in terms of technology etc there's always the caveman in us that wants sex.
So, no matter how much of a pimp we think we are, at the end of the day women know this and for as long as men want sex from a woman we all fall victim to their demands,so until that day comes, they hold all the cards and stop us doing half the crap we actually wanna do,regardless of what we say to our mates when we meet them down the PUB,lol.

Originally Posted by JuggNuttz

women are evil and vindictive. plain and simple... the evil is so deep it's in their blood.... which is why it has to be drained and replaced once a month.

i have 2 older sisters, and growing up, their friends were also my friends. and to hear them talking shit about good guys and playing voicemails of guys trying to sound sweet to them to only make fun of them.... plus my own experiences of me trying to be the best i can and making them happy and such.... evil evil creatures.... honestly if it wasnt for the sex, id SO be gay!

so yeah, i always make the joke, but i may start doing it....

Just rent them.... you get the sex you want, they get the money, which is all women want, and then they go the **** away. win-win for all.

ha ha, I just made a post without seeing yours first mate, looks like we've come to a similar realisation, especially with your last paragraph, so true mate.

[swpthleg]

Originally Posted by UrbanBounca

I was married in '03 to a lady that I'd been with since '00. We were together til '08, and have been separated ever since. After seeing the way my buddy and his wife get along, and how she doesn't bother him for wanting to be a man every once in awhile, whether it's watching the game or drinking til he can't see straight, she doesn't bitch about him at all. He realizes what he has, and treats her with the same respect.

That said, I'm convinced I married the wrong one. I'm not saying I want his wife, but she is definately proof that they are out there, and they don't stress the small shit.

The last sentence is a very accurate distillation of the sentiment that has been expressed over and over in this thread.

After being married 18 years and together 19 years , I cannot stress enough how important it is not to sweat the small stuff, and to have a sense of perspective wherein what is and isn't small stuff. Having a sense of humor, with regard to yourself as well as life, is just as crucial, and goes hand in hand with the aforementioned.

It's very easy to overthink and attempt to psychoanalyze. You can do that till you're blue in the face, and all you will have done is engage in useless obfuscation.

[Guy Incognito]

if she keeps complaining about you training too much,tell her she is not in the kitchen enough, problem solved......

[xeberus]

Evolve.

If you don't want to be nagged then don't be, leave it all with her and walk away. I'm not saying I know everything or even have a healthy marriage, all I'm saying is that I'm happy and its functioning.

Not sure if im the best person to be giving advice, but I don't like to be bitched at. I'll ignore it, or leave and she has to deal with her own shit. I have a healthy amount of detach from such things to where I just don't care. And I won't change even if that means divorce. I'll listen and reason if its a valid problem that needs to be addressed. But what I won't do is worry or get upset because I'm doing what I want to do.

At the same time don't get me wrong its always good to be objective and reasonable, but to have nothing to do with beyond that.

[swpthleg]

Originally Posted by xeberus

Evolve.

If you don't want to be nagged then don't be, leave it all with her and walk away. I'm not saying I know everything or even have a healthy marriage, all I'm saying is that I'm happy and its functioning.

Not sure if im the best person to be giving advice, but I don't like to be bitched at. I'll ignore it, or leave and she has to deal with her own shit. I have a healthy amount of detach from such things to where I just don't care. And I won't change even if that means divorce. I'll listen and reason if its a valid problem that needs to be addressed. But what I won't do is worry or get upset because I'm doing what I want to do.

At the same time don't get me wrong its always good to be objective and reasonable, but to have nothing to do with beyond that.

You made a good point; that it's whatever recipe works in your own kitchen, so to speak. That's why broad generalizations are pointless on this subject.

I spend a fair amount of time in the kitchen, the literal one, because I love to cook and I'M doing what I want to do.