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shyguy 01-01-2010 10:40 PM

nervous about joing a gym
 
I found a mma gym near my house. I really wanna go there and join, but ive struggled with social anxiety my whole life. I don't have anyone to join with me to make it easier. Any advice on what it's like at an mma gym and how are new commers welcome? And also how to get over the fear of actually going there? :(

HexRei 01-01-2010 10:51 PM

a) be humble. as socrates said, the first step in wisdom is admitting you know nothing.

b) try to absorb all the knowledge you can. don't argue, but don't be afraid to ask for clarification.

c) take criticism as something you can better yourself with, not something to feel bad about. work hard, set your goals reasonably, and make sure you are able to train as hard as you need to to meet them. and then stick to that training. reset your goals if you need to, no one is perfect and no one can predict the future.

d) try not to complain. that doesn't mean you should be reluctant to speak up if you are injured or not quite ready to go another session, but don't whine. that's the quickest path to earn the derision of your peers and instructors. your best effort will be more appreciated than simply sitting out.

most any gym /dojo that's worth being at will respect someone who exhibits these qualities, regardless of their skill or ability upon joining.

JimmyJames 01-01-2010 10:52 PM

Well I dont know what else to tell you but to go to the gym and talk to a few people who work there and tell them about your problems. They can inform people at the gym and I am sure there is somebody that would want to help you out.

Things will work out much better for you with an honest approach.

Halfraq9 01-02-2010 04:48 AM

LOL. I totally know where you're coming from!! I was there a year and a half ago. Like Hex Rei said, be humble, and relax! Don't be the guy who thinks every training or sparring session is a fight. Jump in with both feet and start learning.

Expect a few bruises, sore muscles and what not. They go with the sport. But mostly, expect to meet some of the nicest, coolest people on the planet. Don't be afraid to be out of your element, we've all been there. You're not going to get thrown to the wolves and torn up.

Don't worry about what shape you're in, or what you do or don't know. Just show up and do your best. Seek out people who are better than you and pick their brains. (This is where being humble really pays off!)

Hope this helps relieve some of your anxiety.

Mjr 01-02-2010 08:28 AM

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Originally Posted by shyguy (Post 1081925)
I found a mma gym near my house. I really wanna go there and join, but ive struggled with social anxiety my whole life. I don't have anyone to join with me to make it easier. Any advice on what it's like at an mma gym and how are new commers welcome? And also how to get over the fear of actually going there? :(

Trust me mate, just don't even think about it and go down. Your confidence will skyrocket after a few weeks, I swear to it.

Taking up martial arts of any form will help with your social anxiety, nothing but positives can come of this.

Let us know how you go.

damen@FIYF 01-02-2010 11:09 AM

I have similar issues. You can always look into private instruction, if you find it too bad - but be warned that private instruction tends to be quite expensive.

At the end of the day though, everyone else is right. If you can make yourself go a few times, you will get more confidence and get used to it.

dirtnasty 01-02-2010 12:49 PM

I had the same problem, but when i decided to join it took about 2 weeks and i was talking to everyone there like they were my friends that i grew up with. Granted everyone was a lot better than me, but no one every acted like they were superior because they were a blue or purple belt instead they tried to help me improve.
Training in a Martial art is much different than every other sport and i've played quite a few. At the gym its not everyone is the same age or even from the same town or city. There aren't going to be like groups or anything like that everyone trains together it is a much different atmosphere from college or high school sports. On few occasions did many of the people who train there even know each other before they started training. I found it to be a very acceptive environment.

shyguy 01-02-2010 03:25 PM

I finally got enough courage to call there today. The guy I talked to was extremely nice. The price is a little steep, ( $150 a month, I don't know if that's high for an mma gym.) Anyway I'm going next week for a class to see if I like it. I drove by it the other day; the gym looked pretty small. Also, what are the signs I should look for to see this is actually a credible gym?


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