Originally Posted by endersshadow
Ari, it's good to get a girl's viewpoint on things, but I don't agree. I held the door for one of my friends and she said, "I can hold the door for myself." I told her that I knew she could and I didn't care. Guys look after women, not beat up on them.
Guys look after women? That comment in itself is degrading. We don't live in a primitive hunter-gatherer society where women pick berries and pop out babies, we live in a progressive, much less gender stratified society where women no longer submit to men and hold equal status. I'm not a 'feminist' but I'm pretty damn independent and I sure don't need a guy to "look after me". I love my husband to death, and I know he loves me just as mch as I do. However, I don't expect or want him to "look after me" all the time, and I don't do the same to him either. Part of being an individual is being independent, if a woman can't be independent and look after herself...Well then she's basically a notch below a human being.
The ideas of chivalry, gender stratification, and the "manhood" puzzle are not longer relevant.
I don't condone anybody hitting anyone (unless as I said it's a sanctioned fight or self defense), but if a girl acts like a guy, she should deserve, and be ready to be treated like one.